8 Tips For Enjoying A Swingers’ Party With Your Wife

So your wife finally convinced you to go to one of them swingers’ parties, eh? Well, don’t worry, you can Tivo the game for later and don’t really have to worry about what you’re going to wear. To really enjoy the party, however, you’re going to have to follow a few simple tips. 

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When you first show up, your wife will no doubt be eager to get going with the first two dudes she sees, so you’ll be on your own from here on out. Play it cool; don’t just stand there masturbating.

Find two chicks who are making out on a couch and stand next them. They’re probably about to get up and go to a bedroom to get it on, leaving open valuable couch real estate. Now you got a seat – score!

Every once an awhile get up and peak in on your wife getting double banged by those dudes. It’s important to keep an eye on things.

Often times the host will put out some food – go ahead, help yourself to some sandwiches. Just be sure to pick out all the pubic hair before eating anything.

When your wife is done getting banged, she’ll probably be coming back into the living room looking for some more action. Try impressing her by pointing out what an awesome seat you managed to grab before she goes back into the room for another round of getting pounded.

If you find yourself in a conversation with a lady who seems like she may be interested in a little action with you, immediately propose to her.

Find the original two guys who banged your wife earlier in the night and talk to them a bit about their experience. For instance, in between her begging for more, did she happened to mention she noticed that you cleaned up the entire guest bathroom at home?

http://www.manosterone.com/2011/04/8-tips-for-enjoying-a-swingers%E2%80%99-party-with-your-wife/

Swingers: Inside the Secret World of Provocative Parties and Couples Who 'Swap'

Swingers, like polyester leisure suits, seemed to have their heyday in the '70s. But couples who openly swap partners for a night of passionate sex with strangers, are becoming a growing trend in a sort of new sexual relationship revolution -- and those who swing say the rest of us monogamists are missing out. 

"Nightline" went inside the top secret world of swingers -- as guests, not participants -- to a highly provocative masquerade party at a hotel in New York City hosted by a group called Behind Closed Doors.

Forget the notion that swingers parties are full of middle-aged folks who are bored stiff by years of marriage. Behind Closed Doors selects its members based on attractiveness and age. The younger the better, and not everyone makes the cut.

The couples said they don't find anything wrong with monogamy, but they were looking for something more exciting and raw.

"Our best sex is with each other," said Sara of Eatontown, N.J., who was at the party with her boyfriend Michael. "We have pretty amazing sex at home when we're alone. When we come here it's a physical attraction, not an emotional attraction."

Michael, a 28-year-old construction worker, and Sara, 24, who works in a doctor's office, have been in a committed relationship for more than a year but they do "full swaps," complete with intercourse, but they refuse to kiss strangers.

"Sex is more of a primal, more of an urge-based," Michael said. "The kissing is more intimate so we like to keep that for us."

National surveys suggest as many as 60 percent of marriages involve cheating. One study conducted by the University of Washington Center for the Study of Health and Risk Behaviors showed that in the last two decades, the number of unfaithful wives under the age of 30 increased by 20 percent and number of unfaithful husbands under 30 increased by 45 percent.

Yet every swinger "Nightline" spoke with said they have a cure for that. They said their relationships are more spicy, more honest and more secure because they swap partners.

"People that are of a certain degree of attractiveness are probably looking to interact and swap partners with other people that are a certain degree of attractiveness so they are a good-looking person," said Nicole Cray, a self-described swing school instructor for Behind Closed Doors. "If you're not a good-looking person, it's probably not the right party for you."

Janel and Stevens of Edgewater, N.J., are both in their 30s and have been together for nearly two years. She manages properties and Stevens is a disc jockey. When they attended Behind Closed Doors' party, they engaged in so-called "soft swapping."

"So we do not engage in penetration," she said. "It's a comfort level. We flirt, we hug, we kiss, but there's nothing much further than that."

Janel said swinging works for her and Stevens because it's something they can do together.

"Think about traditional relationships and how much cheating and lying and deceiving there is how much more disrespectful is it when you do it behind your partner's back," she said. "We're sharing something."

Swingers are part of a change that researchers have noted in younger couples' attitudes toward infidelity in recent years. Younger generations are marrying later, and come to the marriage with habits acquired over years of dating -- among them, sleeping with other partners after the initial attraction wears thin.

Sara and Michael, another couple at the Behind Closed Doors party, said they got into the swinging scene because of a Super Bowl bet they made with each other -- if the Patriots won, Sara earned a threesome with another guy, and if the Giants won, Michael got a threesome with another girl.

"Needless to say the Giants won and I had a week to come up with a girl, found a girl, had an awesome experience and ever since then, every weekend, we've been meeting other couples," Sara said. "We're not the jealous type, but we believe that 'sharing is caring.'"

It usually costs about $200 for a ticket to one of Behind Closed Doors' parties and there's an etiquette involved. Only single women or couples are allowed inside, but no men who are flying solo. 

"Women set the rules," said Nicole Cray of Behind Closed Doors. "Men can talk about what they want but women make the decision about what they want to do and don't want to do."

And women aren't just setting the rules, they are driving the explosive growth of the swinger culture on the Internet.

Five years ago, AdultFriendFinder.com, a website that helps swinging couples connect with other couples for a monthly fee, had 5.4 million swinger subscribers worldwide, and now the company said they have more than 10 million. Ryan Hunt, the community manager for the website, said the majority of the traffic to the site is coming from women.

"This is a new generation of swingers," Hunt said. "Usually people get into swinging between 35 and 50+ but we've seen people who are now more comfortable with being online and having kind of a more sex-positive attitude towards things that want to explore swinging at a younger age."

Another website, AshleyMadison.com, lists 14 million people in 22 countries who are looking to have extra-marital hook-ups. Behind Closed Doors also has a website, SchoolofSex.net, that serves as a social network for members to meet each other online.

But there is a reason why the Bible includes a commandment against coveting thy neighbor's wife -- we might be biologically hard-wired to have several sexual partners. Helen Fischer, an anthropologist who has studied sex and adultery for years, said she has lived in 42 countries and there is "not a culture in the world that is not adulterous."

"We are predisposed to eat meat. We are predisposed to fear when an animal is running towards us and we probably are predisposed towards adultery," she said.

Another couple who attended the Behind Closed Doors event was Cassie and Mike from Bristol, R.I. They have been married for four years, both have kids and successful careers -- Cassie runs a hair salon and Mike is a solutions engineer. They look like your next-door neighbors, but they spend the evening scoping out the room for strangers that seem approachable for sex.

"I think the best way to describe [swinging] is 'dating as a couple,'" Mike said. "We find it erotic to go out and meet people that have similar interests and similar sexuality."

"Just makes it hot," Cassie said. "Swinging is not love. I'm in love with my husband and it just enhances out sex collectively afterwards."

 "There's a lot of branches on the swinging tree, so you have to figure out which branch do you swing from," she added.

http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/swingers-inside-secret-world-provocative-parties-couples-swap/story?id=16396730

Introducing a Guest into your Bedroom to Swing

Whenever you are introducing a guest into your bedroom to swing you are going to need to make sure that both you and your partner are prepared. This is something that can be a very sexy and fun experience as long as you both approach it in a way that is going to be healthy and fun. You need to be sure that both you and your partner are able to fully understand and be okay with the situation at hand. Don’t try to talk your partner into it if they are not willing. It can end up ruining your relationship if you don’t talk it out.

Boundaries

It is so important that you set boundaries. You and your partner need to talk about what you both feel comfortable doing and what you feel comfortable with the new guest doing. This is something that can end up making a situation a lot better. You will find that whenever you both talk it out and decide what is allowed and what is not you can still keep the trust alive. A lot of couples will have difficulty trusting each other after an experience like this unless they have some sort of boundaries.

You need to be sure that you tell the new guest these boundaries and that they understand them. Be forgiving if they slip up. It can be difficult in the heat of the moment to remember what rules you are supposed to follow. However, if you and your partner stand firm and stay with these boundaries and rules you will find that you can still be happy and intimate even when you are alone.

http://www.swingtimemagazine.com/introducing-a-guest-into-your-bedroom-to-swing

When a Threesome with Another Swing Has Caused Jealously

If you have just had a threesome with another swinger and it has caused jealousy, then this is actually pretty common. A lot of swingers have had difficulty being able to feel comfortable whenever they have to share the person that they have sex with. Be it a partner or just a person that they occasionally sleep with it can be difficult. It is natural for people to become territorial with a person that they have slept with so be sure that you can keep your feelings and theirs in check.

Talk it Out

It is a good idea to talk it out with the jealous party. Talk to them alone. This is the best way for you to make them feel special and like you care. You can hear them out and try to explain to them why they should or shouldn’t feel that way. Just be sure that you are kind with them, even if you don’t know them very well. Jealousy is something that can be very painful and difficult to go through so the more compassionate you are the better.

Boundaries

It is a good idea for you to set boundaries. You will find that whenever you only do things with a certain person and nobody else that it can really help with jealousy. Whenever you allow your partner to have sex with other people, then it can take away from the specialness of your relationship. Whenever you have something that just the two of you do. it can really do wonders with these feelings that you will have.

http://www.swingtimemagazine.com/when-a-threesome-with-another-swing-has-caused-jealously

Taking the Path Towards Swinging

Whenever you are taking the path towards swinging you are going to need to make sure that you don’t jump right in. It may be a good idea for you to just start slowly and go from there. Many people think that they can handle swinging only to find that it is not for them. Make sure that you know for sure if this is something that you can handle before you get too deep into it. Swinging can be a lot of fun if you know how to go about it.

Start Slow

Always make sure that you start slowly. Whether you are in a couple or single you should make sure that you let other people know that you are new to swinging. They will be a lot more forgiving of any nervousness that you are feeling and will more than likely be willing to help you through it. Don’t ever try to rush yourself whenever you are trying swinging out for the first time.

As a Couple

If you and your partner are interested in swinging, then it is a good idea for you to thoroughly discuss it. You both should be in it 100%. If one of you is just doing it for the sake of the other, then it will probably not work. You should set some ground rules to start out with and then go from there.  A lot of people will end up feeling more comfortable if they and their partner have boundaries when they are first getting started.

http://www.swingtimemagazine.com/taking-the-path-towards-swinging

What to do When Swinging as a Threesome

When it comes to things that you can do when swinging as a threesome, you will need to make sure that you understand your options. A lot of people that are new to swinging and threesomes will end up getting nervous and awkward because they do not know what to do. You will find that this is something that can all be remedied as soon as you know how to go about having a good time.

Following the Lead

It is usually a good idea for you to follow the lead if you are new to all of this. You will find that whenever somebody else is more experienced you can simply follow their lead. This is a great way for you to feel more comfortable and start off slowly. You can go from there and end up having a really good time whenever you get yourself started slowly enough to understand what is going on.

Take Control

Sometimes taking control of the situation is something that can really end up helping you to have a good time. Think about what you want to do and simply do it. Chances are you have had sex before so just go about it like you normally would. Just try not to leave anybody out. You will find that taking charge can be just enough of an adrenaline boost to get you really into it.

Have Fun

Remember, this is supposed to be a fun and sexy experience. Don’t allow nerves or anything like that to get in the way of the fun that you should be having. A lot of people will end up freezing up and not having a good time because of nerves.

http://www.swingtimemagazine.com/what-to-do-when-swinging-as-a-threesome

Girlfriend Wants to Attend an Orgy

If your girlfriend wants to attend an orgy, then you are going to need to make sure that you are both fully prepared for what to expect. A lot of people will end up freaking out at the last minute and not being able to participate. This is why it is a good idea for both you and your girlfriend to come together and talk it out so that you can both feel comfortable and have a good time whenever you attend the orgy.

Boundaries

It is usually a good idea for you both to set some boundaries with each other. You may want to tell her no oral and she may want to tell you that you can’t orgasm with anybody else. Whatever your rules or boundaries may be you will need to be sure that you can both follow and stick with these boundaries so that you can keep the trust.

Safety

Always be sure that you are both careful and that condoms are always used. Even if she is on birth control she can end up getting an STD if she does not use other forms of protection. Make sure that you can keep her safe and that you can keep yourself safe. Always bring condoms whenever you are going to an orgy. Even if you know that there will be some there.

Online

Go online to try to find where the hottest orgies are in your area. You will need to be sure that you know the area that you are going to and that you feel comfortable with the people that you are meeting.

http://www.swingtimemagazine.com/girlfriend-wants-to-attend-an-orgy

How to Identify Other Swingers

If you think that you may be in the presence of a swinger, then you will need to make sure that you know the different things that you can do to figure it out. A lot of people that are around other swingers typically don’t even know that they are. Many swingers will end up leading double lives because they do not want certain people knowing that they swing. This means that they are very good at pretending that they are not swingers at all.

Talk About It

If you happen to be having a conversation with people that you suspect are swingers, then you should casually bring up the subject. You will find that whenever you mention swinging if the people are actually swingers they will usually have a strong reaction to the subject being brought up. If they do not want to be found out, then they will often begin to fidget and act uncomfortable. Others may end up opening up and wanting to discuss it with you further. If you find the person getting uncomfortable, then drop the subject, chances are they are not going to tell you if they are.

Couples

If you happen to be talking to a couple that you suspect swings then pay attention to how they react to other couples. See if they both happen to check out people in the same way that a single person would. See if they approach or how they approach other couples. Couples that are swingers will usually want to swing with other couples.

http://www.swingtimemagazine.com/how-to-identify-other-swingers

The Do’s and Don’ts of Swinging

How can you make sure nothing goes wrong when you swap partners while swinging? How can exchanging partners be good for the relationship? Find out about the do’s and don’ts of swingers right here.

Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with each other’s partners, it isn’t all about just that. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and belonging.

Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person for a threesome, you will be having a great time eating, drinking and chatting. To get into the comfort zone, building camaraderie with someone is essential to get down on the knees later.

Swingers can differentiate between fun and friendship. The love and companionship provided by their existing relationship is bare and transparent. There are no rough edges anywhere and they make sure of that or there may be trouble.

Thus, though swingers may have many sexual relationships, only a single emotional relationship exists. Although close friendships are formed within the community, swingers often feel nothing is more important than their own partner. The friendships and companionship among swingers strengthen the primary stem of the relationship rather than damage it.

How can Swinging help your Relationship?

Swingers lay claim that lovemaking is more intimate because they are with a partner who encourages their fantasies. The partner is so confident that jealousy is not an issue. Swingers also vouch that swinging makes infidelity less likely, as they know they can have physical contact with others with their partner’s consent.

Various responses exist to those who object to swinging on the basis of faith. Many swingers feel their activities in their own homes or private clubs are not for others’ justification. Others believe that as long as they consider their relationships sacred, playing does not contradict the sanctity and is consistent with spiritual values. Two additional considerations should be made when it comes to swinging. The first is that the couple defines cheating. As long as the couple have a definition and stay within their boundaries, no cheating would occur. Secondly, some argue that adultery is incongruent with the original definition.

Another common response to moral and philosophical objections is that there is a difference between physical intimacy and love. Contradictorily, this is one of the objections that religious groups have, that this distinction should not exist, meaning both physical intimacy and love should be the same physical agenda.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Swinging

Be truthful and honest when you talk to your partner about your feelings. If you feel jealous of your partner, or have any other uncomfortable feelings about the whole sexual step, tell your partner. If you don’t, they will only come out later and be much more awkward and damaging.

Once you get to the swingers’ joint, be yourself and don’t pretend to be someone else. Being friendly, good-natured and exuding a warm aura has a positive effect on everyone. Leaving your inhibitions at home, both physical and social is a must as it can interfere with your swinging pleasure.

You can’t expect to get much out of a swingers’ party if you aren’t prepared to put much in. Stay close to your partner but not in a clingy way as it may ward off others from approaching either of you. Know your needs, interests and desires and let everyone know about them. Practice safe sex and don’t go beyond limits, even if you intend to try new things.

Are you ready to swap partners?

Don’t be Pushy

Invite someone you’re interested in, in a clean manner and leave the decision-making to them. Don’t ask them for reasons or explanations, even if it’s your partner. Don’t carry on your sweet talking to convince someone if they’ve declined. You’d only drive a nail through your relationship. Don’t overindulge in alcohol. Don’t take someone who isn’t interested and not informed, about the actual course of the night.

Don’t take a Ticket

Don’t take a ‘ticket’ to a swingers’ party (a ticket is the one who goes just to get you in and not to take part). Don’t disturb the swinging pleasures of others. Don’t be rude and try to cheat or lie. Don’t give personal details to anyone at the party if you aren’t comfortable. Don’t be vague about your desires. Don’t cross other people’s limits.

Are you sure about this?

Swinging isn’t for everyone. People need to discuss between themselves, the different factors including jealousy, self-esteem, or any relationship problems, prior to entering into the swinging lifestyle. If any of these areas are of major concern to either person, then chances are, you aren’t ready to enjoy the swinging lifestyle and all of its benefits.

Why are you swinging, really?

It is to be noted that swinging is to enhance your relationship, not to repair or rebuild it. A couple receptive to new and different sexual experiences will begin to explore different avenues of shared sexual fulfillment to continue to grow together. Couples who want to find a way to reconnect physically and emotionally are more likely to make it through a swingers’ party together.

It provides sexual variety, adventure, and the opportunity to live out fantasies as a couple without secrecy and deceit. But never ever join a swinging community and use that as an excuse to cheat on your partner.

Swinging, if done respectfully, can enhance your relationship by a mile. But then again, it is wicked ideas like these that make sentences like the next one appear. Do it if you want, stay away if you want, because indulgences like these really are to each their own!

http://www.lovepanky.com/sensual-tease/obsession/do-and-donts-of-swinging

How to Start Swinging with your Partner

Interested in knowing more about swinging and the swingers lifestyle? Find out about the different types of couple swinging and everything else that you should know about how to start swinging  with your partner.

Do couples actually swing in real life? Why do couples swing in the first place?

As complex as our anatomical set up and mind, our nature, characteristics, lifestyle and social behaviors are unique phenomena too.

We have an insatiable appetite for at least one thing in life, be it food or intimacy, as examples.

Leaving food on the table, we stray into a familiar territory to take a dig on an act of physical intimacy. Intimacy is a term stretched to every direction and now it’s slanting towards swingers and couples that want to start swinging.

Swinging is a non-monogamous activity of physical intimacy treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. It has a recreational perspective. Swingers indulge in intimate acts with someone other than one’s spouse/primary partner, with the full knowledge and consent of that person.

Swingers have been thriving since the beginning of recorded time. In the era of flower power, swinging was a very “in-thing” and among the most popular “culture”. It has had different social standings through time, of course! The phenomenon of swinging may be seen as part of the revolution of recent decades.

Swinging is like a sport for people who believe physical attraction is part of human nature and should be openly enjoyed by a committed or married couple.

Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages in carnal activities with another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. The most common method is an adult male and female couple, meeting other pairs for lovemaking and physical intimacy, and sometimes ongoing intimate relationships. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liaison, or with a third person in a threesome.

How to start swinging – The different types of swinging couples

During these events, swingers acknowledge lovemaking as a game and participants as team-mates. There are few ground rules, but none etched in stone. The prominent carnal activities, but definitely not limited to, are several to mention, but a few of the most popular ones include:

Exhibitionism

It is the form of pleasure which involves making out with a partner while being watched by at least one other person.

Voyeurism

Watching others doing or performing the big bang. It is acceptable in the group event, but not in private areas.

Soft Swap

It involves kissing and stroking and the basics in blowing a guy or tickling a girl down south, with multiple partners. This can be indulged during the threesome, group romp, or while swapping partners.

Peak Swap

This is to have penetrative physical sex with someone other than one’s partner. The idea is almost the definition of swinging, but not necessarily the same.

Group Game

This term signifies the activities involving multiple players in the same lay-out. It usually defines a group of four or more people interacting physically. The most common is two couples, although it can be any gender of four or more people.

Ménage a Trios

Also known as threesomes, this is one of the most common methods of starting in the swinging lifestyle for beginners. A lot of couples will carry on with threesomes long after they become an integral part in swinging. In this, all three involved people interact with each other in bed.

Extreme Measures

These include things such as spanking, bondage, and water sports. The majority of these are very uncommon at most swingers’ parties unless the hosts have chosen a theme for the night, in which case you will be notified well before the night of the party.

Bi-Factor

People of the same gender interacting with each other sexually. This is much more common between women than men, but it doesn’t mean every woman will indulge in it. Bisexuality between men is extremely rare in the swinging community, and is usually frowned upon if not organized prior, and is usually preferred in a separate area.

The 10 Rules of Swinging

What should you know about swinging before you try to swing with your partner? Here are the ten most important rules that every swinger couple should know and follow to make sure you have a good time while swapping partners. 

 

Like any other human activity, swinging also has its pros and cons. A few basic laid down principles can make swinging fun and foul-free, every time.

One goes, both go

Come as a couple and leave as one. It is not preferable if one goes while the other lags behind. Always go hand in hand without leaving your partner behind. Swinging is safer and easier if both partners are comfortable indulging in it. It is a team game. Not a solo affair.

Punctuality

Arriving at the correct time applies here as well. Turning up late at a party is a turn-off. By the time you’re in, the night would be in full swing. You’d only end up making people who are already in the act feel awkward. You won’t know where to fit in too. Inform the host beforehand if you are going to be late. Or you may not be invited again.

Courtesy

The lifestyle of the swingers isn’t a piece of cake. Sometimes it is complex and complicated with lots of insecurities and uncertainties. Courtesy is the key to ease up. Behave with people just like you would like them to behave towards you. Be sensible, thoughtful and understanding.

RSVP to Invitations

Even if you don’t wish to attend, answer to all invitations. It is very annoying for a host if they don’t know how many people are going to turn up. Reply by phone or mail and express your gratitude for the invitation.

Gift for the Host

Don’t go to a party empty-handed. Ask the host about what you could get for them. Get something racy or simple for the hosts every time you attend a swingers’ party. See, it’s just like a normal party, isn’t it?

The Right Attire

Wear clothes that are practical and will be comfortable for you as the night progresses. Carrying a robe or a negligee is a good idea. Take only as much cash as you require. Keep your bling, jewelry and other valuables to the bare minimum. Losing them will be headache to you and an embarrassment to the hosts.

Health and Hygiene

Oral hygiene is a basic necessity for everyone. Bad breath or body odor is a big turn-off for your potential partners. Shower and groom well before you leave for the party. Good cologne, perfumes or body sprays will give you the edge in the environment. The best way to enjoy the party is by freshening up as you reach there.

Enjoy Yourself

The whole idea is to have fun and enjoy your time there, so participate in activities that make you feel comfortable. Don’t let anyone pressurize you to do something you don’t like. This may be the most important one. Approach every activity with an open mind and positive attitude. Act out your fantasies, and enjoy yourself.

The Right to say ‘NO’

This is the fundamental etiquette in swinging, the right to say ‘no’. It is simple and straightforward, and polite to say ‘no, thank you’. Explanations and alibis aren’t required as these may cause embarrassment and hurt you. You shouldn’t be afraid to decline an invitation. It is the only way to avoid doing something you might regret afterwards. And that might just create more ill-feelings and embarrassment.

Friendliness

Be a friend to all, even if you don’t want to extend the night or don’t have any interest in getting physical with someone. You may catch a vibe by being nice with the others in the community. They may put you across to people who you may be interested in.

Swinging can be every bit as invigorating, exciting and fulfilling as you can ever imagine. It opens a window to explore your favorite fantasies in safe mode. You and your partner can work out in private, and yet you can enjoy another couple or get a group swing in just one evening.

Meeting new interesting people and making bold friends are potential side-effects of swinging. Swinging also has the common positive effect of enhancing your relationship and personal life to a great extent. The positive feeling about yourself, your mate, and your relationship is the most important factor while swinging.

http://www.lovepanky.com/sensual-tease/obsession/the-10-rules-of-swinging