How can you make sure nothing goes wrong when you swap partners
while swinging? How can exchanging partners be good for the
relationship? Find out about the do’s and don’ts of swingers right here.
Although the majority of swinging will end up involving lovemaking
and getting frisky with each other’s partners, it isn’t all about just
that. Swinging is about building up the atmosphere of warmth and
belonging.
Whether you are at a party with another couple or with another person
for a threesome, you will be having a great time eating, drinking and
chatting. To get into the comfort zone, building camaraderie with
someone is essential to get down on the knees later.
Swingers can differentiate between fun and friendship. The love and
companionship provided by their existing relationship is bare and
transparent. There are no rough edges anywhere and they make sure of
that or there may be trouble.
Thus, though swingers may have many sexual relationships, only a
single emotional relationship exists. Although close friendships are
formed within the community, swingers often feel nothing is more
important than their own partner. The friendships and companionship
among swingers strengthen the primary stem of the relationship rather
than damage it.
How can Swinging help your Relationship?
Swingers lay claim that lovemaking is more intimate because they are
with a partner who encourages their fantasies. The partner is so
confident that jealousy is not an issue. Swingers also vouch that
swinging makes infidelity less likely, as they know they can have
physical contact with others with their partner’s consent.
Various responses exist to those who object to swinging on the basis
of faith. Many swingers feel their activities in their own homes or
private clubs are not for others’ justification. Others believe that as
long as they consider their relationships sacred, playing does not
contradict the sanctity and is consistent with spiritual values. Two
additional considerations should be made when it comes to swinging. The
first is that the couple defines cheating. As long as the couple have a
definition and stay within their boundaries, no cheating would occur.
Secondly, some argue that adultery is incongruent with the original
definition.
Another common response to moral and philosophical objections is that
there is a difference between physical intimacy and love.
Contradictorily, this is one of the objections that religious groups
have, that this distinction should not exist, meaning both physical
intimacy and love should be the same physical agenda.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Swinging
Be truthful and honest when you talk to your partner about your
feelings. If you feel jealous of your partner, or have any other
uncomfortable feelings about the whole sexual step, tell your partner.
If you don’t, they will only come out later and be much more awkward and
damaging.
Once you get to the swingers’ joint, be yourself and don’t pretend to
be someone else. Being friendly, good-natured and exuding a warm aura
has a positive effect on everyone. Leaving your inhibitions at home,
both physical and social is a must as it can interfere with your
swinging pleasure.
You can’t expect to get much out of a swingers’ party if you aren’t
prepared to put much in. Stay close to your partner but not in a clingy
way as it may ward off others from approaching either of you. Know your
needs, interests and desires and let everyone know about them. Practice
safe sex and don’t go beyond limits, even if you intend to try new
things.
Are you ready to swap partners?
Don’t be Pushy
Invite someone you’re interested in, in a clean manner and leave the
decision-making to them. Don’t ask them for reasons or explanations,
even if it’s your partner. Don’t carry on your sweet talking to convince
someone if they’ve declined. You’d only drive a nail through your
relationship. Don’t overindulge in alcohol. Don’t take someone who isn’t
interested and not informed, about the actual course of the night.
Don’t take a Ticket
Don’t take a ‘ticket’ to a swingers’ party (a ticket is the one who
goes just to get you in and not to take part). Don’t disturb the
swinging pleasures of others. Don’t be rude and try to cheat or lie.
Don’t give personal details to anyone at the party if you aren’t
comfortable. Don’t be vague about your desires. Don’t cross other
people’s limits.
Are you sure about this?
Swinging isn’t for everyone. People need to discuss between
themselves, the different factors including jealousy, self-esteem, or
any relationship problems, prior to entering into the swinging
lifestyle. If any of these areas are of major concern to either person,
then chances are, you aren’t ready to enjoy the swinging lifestyle and
all of its benefits.
Why are you swinging, really?
It is to be noted that swinging is to enhance your relationship, not
to repair or rebuild it. A couple receptive to new and different sexual
experiences will begin to explore different avenues of shared sexual
fulfillment to continue to grow together. Couples who want to find a way
to reconnect physically and emotionally are more likely to make it
through a swingers’ party together.
It provides sexual variety, adventure, and the opportunity to live
out fantasies as a couple without secrecy and deceit. But never ever
join a swinging community and use that as an excuse to cheat on your
partner.
Swinging, if done respectfully, can enhance your relationship
by a mile. But then again, it is wicked ideas like these that make
sentences like the next one appear. Do it if you want, stay away if you
want, because indulgences like these really are to each their own!
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