Swinging is not a lifestyle that should be jumped in to without
consideration. It requires a lot of work and discipline to make it work.
There are several very important aspects you should consider before you
decide to swing.
Setting Boundaries
This is the single most important step before swinging is setting the
boundaries. These will serve as a list of rules that you and your
partner must follow to maintain the relationship. The reason this is
important is because without this you don’t know what your partner is
going to be okay with and what they will get upset about. It’s too
difficult to pull away in the heat of the moment and constantly ask if
it’s okay. Many couples choose to just watch or participate with one
other person in the beginning. You need to know what turns you on, and
what will make you jealous and feel betrayed. The boundaries and rules
will evolve over time, and this ok.
Decide on the Type of Swinging
Another important aspect when it comes to setting boundaries is to
figure out what type of swinging you are interested in. There are people
who will only play for others to watch. Soft swingers will only have
sex with one another, but may be okay with others having sex in the same
area. A soft swap means that the partners are allowed to play with
other couples, but without penetration. Decide what kind of actives
interest you and set the rules from there.
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