Some people think that polyamory is the same thing as the swing lifestyle.
Nothing could be farther from the truth. While there are some aspects
that are similar between the two lifestyles, (learn more about swinging
by clicking here),
there are some clear differences which must be observed. Here is some
more information pertaining to the major differences between the swing lifestyle, and that of a polyamorous person.
A good swing lifestyle expert is hard to come by
The reason there is some confusion out there is that there are no
experts in the field, except for myself. I saw one blogging website
that deals with the swinging lifestyle, and the so-called expert on the
site has an article discussing polyamory vs. swinging.
There is no such word as polyamory, but if there were, its definition
would involve multiple rooms to house weapons. When even the experts do
not know what they are talking about, confusion is bound to
proliferate. That is why you are lucky to have me. Let me break it
down for you. Polyamory is defined as multiple (poly, the Greek word
for several or many) lovers (amor, from the Latin word for love). As Wikipedia refers to it, Polyamory
is the convention of being in more than one sexual relationship at a
time, with the foreknowledge and approval of every one involved. Some
polyamorous relationships also can involve polysexuality, which is
attraction toward both genders. In the swinging lifestyle, sex with
others is often regarded as more of a recreational aspect of their
relationship. For those in a polyamorous lifestyle, they have complete
relationships with multiple partners at the same time. All aspects of
the relationship are participated in by all partners.
Casual sex is not a part of swinging or polyamory
Swingers
are, by definition, in a relationship with one partner. They then take
that one partner to a party or gathering of swingers, at which they
swap partners. Most times, the partner with whom they are in a
relationship is in the same room as the person having casual sex
with someone else. The experience of free and open casual sex is
shared between the partners in the relationship. For swingers, casual
sex with some one else is usually a recreational part of their
relationship. For the most part, though a swinger will have sex with
other people at a swing party, a swinger’s relationship is regarded as
monogamous. The whole experience of the couple comes into play when
talking about a swinging lifestyle. In a polyamorous relationship, the
experience is based more on the individual, and how they interact with
others. One misconception is that casual sex is a part of both
lifestyles. Neither form of relations is based on casual sex. In the polyamorous one, sex happens between people who are in a relationship, even if they are not exclusive to each other. ( learn how to have unattached sex) In the swinging lifestyle, sex with others is more of a celebration, rather than just casual sex, as much of it takes place at parties and gatherings of friends.
There is more to being polyamorous than you might think
Furthermore, the sexual intercourse between people in polyamorous
relationships lasts much longer than sexual encounters do in the swinger
lifestyle. Those in a polyamorous relationship have sex with the same
people over a long period of time, typically weeks, months, or even
years. In a swinging relationship, however, most sexual encounters with
people other than the partner are very short lived. This time span is
more akin to a few minutes to a few hours. Once the swinging gathering
is over, sex with others ends, and sex returns to solely with the
partner.
Ever since HBO’s hit series Big Love
introduced America to the world of polygamy misconceptions have run
wild. Now that you know the differences between a polyamorous
relationship and the swinging lifestyle, you can accurately assess the
relationship that you want to have. Neither is any better than the
other morally. It all comes down to personal preference.
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